The decision has been made: your family is officially moving on from your current location. This is an exciting time for you and your kids, but as you begin to think through the logistics of your move, you wonder how your little ones will respond to the news. Maybe you should be discreet and begin to pack up their things while they have a sleepover at a friend’s. Or you could sit them down and tell them everything that is going to happen so they can entirely understand the process. As you ponder the options, you realize that this is going to be harder than you thought, but all you want is to make this process as easy as it can be for your children.
Helping Your Kids with the Move
The first thing you need to do is take a deep breath and realize you are doing what’s best for your family. You came to this decision for a reason and, ultimately, you wouldn’t have come to this choice if it were not the greatest option for your children. So relax and understand that your concern stems from a love for your kids—just like your decision to move.
Here are some ways that you can help your children with the transition:
- Tell your kids about the move before you start packing: It may seem easier to begin to pack your things and to tell your children about your move at the last minute. However, the reality is that children are more like us than we think, and that, like us, they need time to process new information. Picture how you would feel if you were taken to a new place for no other reason than “you’re supposed to and it’s for the best.” You would have a million questions, and you wouldn’t feel secure in the decision unless you were given sound reasoning. Clearly, children cannot reason on the same level as adults can, but they are perceptive and they do comprehend more than we give them credit for. So, it is important that you tell your kids that you are planning on moving to a new place before you begin to pack.
- No matter the circumstances of your move, be excited: It is important you be excited for the move and you share that sentiment with your children. Your kids respond to things based on your emotions and how you present facts. As an example, picture taking your kids on a camping trip for a weekend. Envision that your attitude leading up to and while on the trip is mostly negative. Can you expect your kids to enjoy themselves if you are being negative about the trip? Of course not. The same goes for a new move. If you are sad, frightened, or frustrated about your transition, your kids will also be sad, frightened, or frustrated. In short, your kids will mimic your response to your move, so stay positive and your kids will surely do the same.
- Keep your children in the loop: Kids will have questions about your move, and you should do your best to answer them. While your kids trust you, they are also naturally curious. This means they will have questions that need answers. Expect questions like, “Are my toys coming with me? Is my friend going to be there? Why do we have to go?” For these questions and others, do your best to answer them honestly, but with a positive attitude. Absolutely do not lie to your children about a circumstance. If you tell your child that a friend is going to be at a new location and they won’t be, you need to realize that you just set your child up for failure. So be honest, and stay upbeat.
- Give your child a chance to be a part of the move: While your children obviously have no control or say about the reality of moving, it is important that you give them opportunities to be a part of the move. Get a calendar for them and let them cross of the days as the date of moving arrives. Allow or assist your child in helping them pack one of their boxes of things. Giving your child a sense of control over the situation will help them remain active in the move and feel more at peace with the transition.
- Share pictures or visit your new home with your kids before the move: The loss of the security blanket of familiarity is one of the main reasons a move can be so difficult for children. Unfamiliarity and the unknown are some of the scariest things for adolescents (most kids are afraid of the dark for this reason.) In light of this, it is important that you familiarize your child with their new home in some way. If the move is local, take your child to visit the home and see the building to become familiar with the neighborhood. You can also visit nearby parks or play areas so your child can have a memorable place you can take them to when they are having difficulty in the new home. If the move is further away and visiting prior to transition is implausible, put a picture of the new house on the refrigerator so your children can regularly see the location. Point out what rooms the windows are attached to and particular oddities of the scene. Then, once you move there, you can show your children the oddities you had been talking about and they will feel more comfortable with the home.
Movers Can Make the Process Easier
The frustrations that adults have in light of transition usually stems from the work that goes into moving from one property to another. Taking hundreds or thousands of pounds of stuff from point A to point B can be extremely burdensome. The key to helping you stay grounded, and to pass that security on to your children, is hiring professional movers. At Affordable Quality Moving Services, we guarantee that our team will take pressure off your move. Our services can fit any and all of your moving needs. From packing only to complete services, our friendly Santa Clarita movers can help you and your family thrive in this season of change. We know how to work with families because our business has been family owned for more than 20 years. So let our experience guide you and your kids through this new stage of life for your family.
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